What is the right age to get my child a smartphone?

One of the biggest questions families face today. This guide presents a gradual, age-appropriate approach to introducing smartphones — based on research, expert advice, and experiences from families who’ve been there.

Delay as long as possible

At the heart of this movement is a simple idea: give children more time to build confidence, resilience, and relationships without the constant pressure of a screen in their pocket. That means delaying their first smartphone for as long as you can.

We know the pressure starts early, and it really builds between ages 11 and 14 - that’s the key period when group chats start and playground conversations move online. It’s not easy. But just because everyone seems to be getting a phone doesn’t mean you have to. Our Parent Pact is a great way to reduce peer pressure by joining other families in your area who also want to delay.

And the good news: it’s not all or nothing — there’s lots of middle ground between no tech and full smartphone access. The goal isn’t to cut your child off from the internet completely; it’s to delay unrestricted 24/7 access in their pocket.

Recommended approach

Every family is different, and there will always be exceptions — but this approach is helping thousands of families introduce technology more intentionally and at a pace that protects childhood.

Ages 0–11: No phone

We’re not saying “no internet” or “no screens.” But most children in primary school don’t need their own phone — smart or otherwise. Keep things simple. Focus on real-world play, face-to-face time, boredom (which is vital for creativity), and shared digital experiences like family TV or games.

If your child needs to go online for homework or creative projects, use a shared family laptop or computer in a common space where you can supervise. Be cautious with tablets — unsupervised, they can present the same risks as smartphones.

Setting this expectation early helps change the norm: in our family, phones aren’t part of childhood — and that’s OK.

Ages 11–14: First phone (not a smartphone)

If your child starts going out alone or needs to reach you, a simple phone makes sense — calls and texts only, no internet, app store, or social media. Many families find this gives independence without opening the door to everything else.

For online exploration, shared family computers are useful — especially in communal spaces. Some parents allow limited messaging via their own phone or computer — to help maintain connections with friends, within limits.

Ages 14–16: Transition phone, no social media

At this stage, kids are better equipped to handle tech — but still need support. A “transition phone” could be a smartphone with strong parental controls or a “smart-ish” phone that limits apps and usage. The key is to go slow and stay involved.

Set clear boundaries: screen time limits, no phones in bedrooms or at meals, regular check-ins, and open talks about body image, peer pressure, and online wellbeing. Remember, smartphones are adult tools — introduce them carefully.

Ages 16–18: Full smartphone

By late teens, most young people are better prepared for full smartphone use. The habits you’ve built earlier will shape how responsibly they handle it. Giving children more years without constant digital distraction helps them develop self-regulation, critical thinking, and a healthier sense of self.

Delaying doesn’t hold them back — it sets them up to thrive. When they finally enter the digital world, they’ll be more equipped to use it on their own terms, not be used by it.

Practical tips

When the time comes, follow these steps for a smoother transition:

- Avoid gifting the smartphone as a “reward” — present it as a tool, not a prize.

- Set clear limits: no phones at night, at meals, or during family time.

- Stay involved: talk regularly about apps, content, and online experiences.

You’re not alone

Whether you delay, phase in, or are already navigating smartphone life — you’re not alone. Thousands of families are figuring this out, finding that with a bit of support and connection, it’s possible to make confident, intentional choices. This isn’t about perfection; it’s about creating the right environment for children to thrive — with good tools, boundaries, and conversations in place.